Stolen glances, butterflies in the stomach, heart racing, and now the possibility of actually dating them. We get it. It’s exciting. You’re probably replaying every gaze, every smile, every text they sent.You are over the moon, as you should be. The thought of dating someone you had a crush on can feel surreal. It may feel magical at first, but before you jump into anything serious, it is important to know the person. Not the version you’ve created in your head, but the real one standing in front of you. When you have placed someone on a pedestal for so long, it’s easy to build a narrative that may or may not match reality. And when emotions fly high, it’s natural that you miss the red flags. But getting to know the person really matters, for which you have to ask the right questions. These are not necessarily the first-date questions, but certainly the ones you have to ask early on, to ensure that you are on the right track. After the icebreakers, after the ‘what’s your favorite color?’ and ‘what do you do for fun?’ conversations, ask deeper questions that will help you to understand the person. Do not go all NIA on your crush. Ensure that your questions do not sound like an interrogation. Put it in a way it feels you are interested in knowing the person better.
- Are you looking for something serious, or are you still figuring things out?
- Do you believe in soulmates?
- What traits do you think are most important in a partner?
- What type of partner do you consider yourself to be?
- What’s your
love language ? - When was your last relationship, and how did it end?
- Do you think you’re over your ex?
- Is the approval of others important to you?
- What values are non-negotiable in a relationship for you?
- How important is religion or spirituality in your life?
- What does loyalty mean to you?
- Whom do you look up to most in life?
- What’s a deal breaker for you in a relationship?
- What is one thing you are unwilling to compromise on?
- Have you ever been cheated on?
- What’s the most valuable lesson your past relationships have taught you?
- What do you like most about yourself?
- What are your thoughts on monogamy?
- What is something you’ve always wanted to try but haven’t yet?
- Whose relationship do you admire and why?
- What’s been the most eventful year of your life so far?
- What’s a dream you’ve never told anyone?
- Are you close to your parents?
- Are your parents together?
- Who is your hero?
- Have you ever had your heart broken?
- Have you ever broken someone else’s heart?
- Who’s your oldest friend?
- Do you want to have kids one day?
- When it comes to priorities like work, life, family, and friends, how does each rank compared to the others?